Being the Boss Means Leading With Assertiveness

tiveness is the focal part of effectiveof people—it could mean that the person
communication among organizations, communitiesmust not be taken seriously.
and other groups of individuals. Being a great• A good leader has a moderate and
leader means having the confidence to voice outrespectful tone of voice.
personal and organizational needs in an effective• A good leader must never sound
way. The proper timing to asserting one’sapologetic. If he has committed an error, he
belief is important and, at the same time, difficult.would strive to correct it and must apologize in a
The Different Stylesdignified manner.
Not all leaders are effective with their• A good leader uses effective body
people-handling and communication skills. These arelanguage.
the common styles that leaders practice:Assertiveness at a Higher Level
• Non-assertiveness—this meansAssertiveness is often interchanged with
that the leader fails to stand up for what heaggressiveness and no leader must have the
believes in and just goes with what the groupssame connotation. Assertion would never involve
dictates to him. When this happens, the rights ofhurting emotionally or physically which are
the leader are clearly violated and his subordinatesindicative of aggressiveness. Winning every word
abuse him for his lack of assertiveness.war should never be a leader’s goal. No
• Aggressiveness, on the other hand, isone ever wins an argument—in fact, the
the style that leaders undertake when they wantone who has the last word or who says more in
everything done their way. This means that theevery argument still loses.
boss will listen to no one but himself and he willA good leader must express all his feelings and
express everything even if people end up gettingideas in all honesty. This will inculcate in his
hurt. This type of leadership focuses on humiliationsubordinates’ minds that he is
and putting down other people just so the leadertrustworthy, therefore, good working relationship
could get away with what he wants.often follows. An assertive leader must also allow
• Assertiveness is the fulcrum to theseothers to be assertive around him. This means
two leadership styles. Being assertive means thethat he would allow his subordinates to speak
leader stands up for himself in a way that wouldtheir minds in a clear and concise manner.
not violate any rights or hurt any feelings. This isAn effective leader must also have a set of
a direct and honest expression of wants, needs,reactions to several circumstances and he must
feelings, or opinions while maintaining one’sconstantly practice this. He must also know how
calm demeanor.to set limits without causing offense and this can
Basic Assertivenessbe done by being firm.
A good leader will always think of his and hisTraits to Avoid
subordinates’ overall welfare. This shouldA leader who has a resolve to become assertive
drive any leader to become assertive andmust avoid these traits:
effective; but assertiveness can never be• Indecisiveness
obtained overnight. There are ways to gain• Arrogance
assertiveness in due time:• Lack of frankness
• A good leader must say what he feels• Arbitrariness
in a nice manner.• Bias
• A good leader maintains eye contactLeadership is a balance of all positive
when he talks to other people.characteristics and the absence of negative ones.
• A good leader also has good posture.A good leader must remember this or he will be
Slouching gives the wrong impression to majorityin jeopardy.